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<aside> 🧠 Remember

• You are not assigning cards to each other. You are dealing cards and negotiating what will get done together.
• It’s not forever that you or your partner will be holding any one card </aside>

1. Review each card from the deck

   The deepest resentment lives in the “C” and “P” because therein lies the bulk of the mental and emotional weight. CPE unveils all of the invisible steps required to complete a task.

   • Conception: This is the behind-the-scenes mental load where you assess your family’s overall needs and conceive of and define the task that will meet those needs.
   • Planning: This is where you do your homework and create a detailed action plan that outlines what is required to get the task done completely. Planning also often includes consulting with other stakeholders
   • Execution: This is the final step to get the job done at an appropriate time while meeting mutually agreed-upon standards and explicitly defined expectations.

2. Thoughtfully agree on who should hold the card, and thus handle the task, based on individual preferences, capabilities, and availability.

   1. If you are sharing a card (meaning you “both” do it), assign the card to the partner who is better equipped to hold it based on individual preferences, capabilities, and availability.

3. No one person should be responsible for them all.

4. Ensure that no one becomes the default cardholder.

5. Each partner should hold a fair share, and at least one from each category.

6. You must assign all cards from your deck - remember, if the card has no value to your family, you should remove it from your deck.

7. If a card is important to only one of you, claim it.

8. Count your individual cards (the number next to your name)

   1. Don’t expect a 50/50 split. The goal of Fair Play is equity, not equality.
   2. Minimum: One person cannot hold all the cards, even in a marriage where one partner does not work outside the home.
   3. Both players hold the adult friendships, self-care, and Unicorn Space cards plus, at a minimum, each partner must hold a fair share of Daily Grind cards, preferably one from each suit.

<aside> 📝 Make the CPE completely your own - edit, start over, leave as-is. Click on each card to open.

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<aside> ❗ It is not yet time to play the game. Schedule a follow-up date to come back to the table.

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<aside> 🙂 The Happiness Trio Cards

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• Self-care

• Adult friendships

• Unicorn Space 🦄

1. They will create strong resentment between you and your partner if you do not both hold them.
2. These are the only cards you hold at the same time.
3. Happiness is an equal right.
4. Wild Cards 🐅: If you are holding one of these life-changing cards, ask your partner for some guilt-free support (which may mean asking them to hold a few extra cards) until circumstances alleviate or change.